The Gatekeepers

I had another interesting conversation about sex, but not so much of the actual sex, but mainly the rules of sex or no sex.
Me and a friend called it Gatekeeping. Think of a woman and her, I'll keep it PG, present being the gate. Now obviously if you need a metaphor, any guy has a "Key" to the gate. But guys can not use their keys whenever they want. Now I always knew and sometimes hated the fact that women regulate when and where and who can use the gate. Now, of course that is appropriate as it does belong to them. But guys, doesn't it suck that when a women is horny all she has to do is call any guy over and ask for the Key?
Now my friend made an amazing point. When it comes to regulating sex itself, women are the true gatekeeper, but when it comes to how good the sex is...the men use the key and control the gate.
Could you imagine how it would have been if the men were Gate Keepers? I bet there would be sex bars and sex clubs all over every city and town. I had this conversation as well. The average man's orgasm only last from 9-12 seconds and it doesn't feel nearly as good in comparison to a woman's orgasm which can last from 24-40 seconds, and if a guy knows what he is doing he can keep her in an orgasmic state. If these stats are the way they are, why are guys sssoooo desperate to get the gate when it should be the girl who wants the key.
Sometimes I wished that sex was an equal pleasure to both sex so guys would stop competing in bed instead of trying to make the girl feel good, and the girl would stop being so picky with what guy she gets.
Keys are like a lottery ticket. A girl can pick the cutest guy in the club and depending on certain aspects the woman has a high chance of getting him, but just because a guy is cute, the lottery ticket may have a great look but maybe the numbers come up short and not worth it? On the other hand, almost any gate would feel good to a key, but a key doesn't always fill the key hole lol.
Is there a huge reason why women are so protective with their gates...well most women...is it a sense of power, dignity, or security? Do women feel that giving your gate to a key means you are losing a part of yourself? Is it societies fault that men are "over key users" and women are "Gatekeepers"?